After reading Csikszentmalyi's book Finding Flow for English class, I started to think about my relationships with my freinds. He brings up the point that to have strong relationships, people have to invest time in eachother. This becomes an issue when a person goes to college. You do not want to give up your old friends from high school, but it is hard to stay close with people when you do not spend time with them regularly. So I started to question myself. Is it worth it to try to stay in touch with my old friends even though I never see them? Will my relationships stay the same?
When I first came to college I talked to my best friends from high school all the time. I called them at least everyday, and we would talk about parties, class, and who we were hanging out with. However, as the semester rolled on I started to talk to my high school friends less and less. It was not because I liked them any less and didn't want to talk to them but because I had new friends that I saw everyday to keep up with.
Although it is hard to keep up with my old friends, I strive to because they are my "best" friends. I have known them my whole life. I know that I can trust them, and I know that they would do anything for me. We know eachother inside and out, and it is hard for me to just replace them with people here that I have only known for about 6 months. But since I am not going to hang out with my old friends any more should I just move on and invest more time with my new friends now that I am around them? It is a debatable question. I know that I always love my old friends, but I do not know if it is more beneficial for me to invest more time with new friends.
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